I’ve had some weird experiences with multicultural diversity, such as being frequently mistaken for Arab, Pakistani, Greek etc. However, the most unexpected one is how attractive I am to a fair number of white computer guys who’ve spent most of their romantic lives with Oriental girls. As mentioned, I don’t look very Irish, but people’s most common guess is that I’m Italian. Since I’m too chicken to post my picture, let’s just say I look as Oriental as a typical Italian girl.
This is an important distinction, because when white women talk about the white guys with Asian girls they seem to think such men have some sort of aesthetic or sexual aversion to white women. However, in my experience that’s not true. Here is my laundry list for why some white nerds always go out with Asian girls.
A. HEIGHT. A lot of white computer guys seem to be a bit below the white mean, about 5’6 or 5’7. Since most men like women who make them feel like men, a 5’7 man would usually prefer a woman who was 5’2, rather than 5’5. I’m 5’1, and although that seems a fairly typical for Japanese women, fairly few white women are that short.
B. DARK EYES. In my mind’s eye, one of the most annoying deficiencies of English is that we don’t really have a word for the deep brown eyes common in Southern Europeans, Arabs, South Americans etc. Many Northern Europeans have pale brown eyes, sort of like wood panelling, but deep dark eyes are fairly uncommon. I suspect that a lot of white men who like Oriental women are drawn to dark eyes. Dark eyes were a constant theme in Marlon Brando’s romantic life, hence the string of Latina, Oriental, and Polynesian women in his life. In my experience in the
increasingly stratified DC area, white men who like dark eyes usually go for Hispanic or Oriental women based on their socioeconomic class.
C. INTELLECTUAL TOLERANCE. This is the big one. Everyone says they want intelligence in a spouse or partner, but most people won’t tolerate for the eccentricities that high intellectual abilities often produce. However, in my experience Orientals of both sexes are more willing to make allowances for this kind of thing. This may be a misreading on my part (Jason Soon can respond), but I suspect that the higher average IQs of Chinese, Japanese, and Koreans might induce them to take these personality quirks in stride. Since my father and brother are both socially functional, kind hearted versions of Ignatius Reilly I really don’t mind if a guy fancies himself Prince Caspian. This also explains why few white computer guys date Hispanic women.
Hope this doesn’t sound like some sort of personal ad. But I’m trying to make a point. There are some genuine Asiaphiles out there, most of whom are not shy about declaring their disgust of white American women. However, most white computer guys from middle-class homes do not have some sort of physical or psychological repulsion towards white women. Indeed, these white/Asian relationships aren’t without their problems, e.g. she frequently has to hide him from her dad. Because like tends to attract like, most white computer guys would love to connect with a white girl who meets the above qualifications. But, as mentioned, we are few and far between.
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